Arguments over parenting styles and no sex life, couples confess about life after children
Mums who think it’s just their relationship that’s been put under pressure by your children, you’re not alone! New research reveals how real couples cope with their relationships after kids.
New research by yano.co.uk reveals that almost three quarters of parents admit their sex life has deteriorated since having children and that the main cause of arguments is now how to raise their family.
A shocking 7% of parents have NEVER had sex since having a child, whilst nearly half barely spend any alone time with their partner, indulging in just one kid-free night per month.
So what can mums do to keep the spark alive?
If you’re guilty of always putting your children first, then you might need to start thinking about yourself more. Dr Patrick Wanis, Celebrity Life Coach and Relationship Therapist said: “This generation of parents almost always puts their child before their marriage and it’s done with the best of intentions. But the best thing parents can do is put their marriage first. If parents neglect each other, children will eventually suffer as the marriage falls apart.”
TV psychologist Jo Hemmings also encouraged parents to open up and confront their issues, she comments: “Couples think making space in their diaries for sex is deeply unromantic but in fact, it becomes something precious and special to look forward to. Just the act of prioritising sex sends a message that you both care.”
So remember, you’re not alone! Make sure you communicate with each other regularly to avoid a small problem becoming a big issue and seek help from friends, family or other mums.
How have children affected your relationship? Let us know by leaving us a comment. Also – if you want ideas on how to keep the spark alive, read How to Keep Romance Alive After Kids.