“When my child was that age…” Ten things you should NEVER say to a mum!
One in three mums has fallen out with someone after careless comments over their child’s development, a study has revealed.
Mums are most likely to fall out with their own mother, partner and mother-in-law over how they should raise their children, with some even falling out with strangers over things like potty training and baby milestones.
A study of 2,000 mums found that touchy subjects like sleeping habits and a child’s development cause such rifts, that a quarter of mums stopped talking to friends altogether.
Emma Kenny, Child Psychologist and spokesperson for Pull-Ups®, the potty training experts who commissioned the study, said: “For many mums it can be difficult to hear comments about how their child isn’t doing something by a certain age, or isn’t behaving in a certain way.
“Many of the comments will often come from other people comparing the child to their own, or someone else’s, but it’s important to remember than all youngsters develop at different speeds. For example, when it comes to potty training some children can be dry during the day at the age of two when others can be closer to four years of age.”
Here’s the most common comments that make mums fall out:
Top 10 remarks to mums about their children
1. Aren’t they tall/short
2. When my child was that age, they were walking, talking etc
3. Your child is very boisterous
4. They should be talking more by now
5. They should be sleeping through the night by now
6. You shouldn’t give them a dummy
7. They don’t eat very well, do they?
8. They should be walking by now
9. They should be crawling by now
10. They should have given up their dummy by now
Do the above sound familiar? Have you ever fallen out with your friends, partner or relatives over how to raise your child?