Interview with ‘Daddy Stinks’ – what’s it like being a single dad?
We’ve teamed up with blogger ‘Daddy Stinks’ to learn how he recently became a single dad after being awarded custody of his two children. Here’s how he responded to our questions!
1. How long have you been blogging for?
I have been blogging since April this year.
2. What inspired you to create a blog?
I served for 9 years in the RAF, serving all over the world, including a tour of Afghanistan. After leaving the armed forces in 2012 my marriage to the children's mum broke down. Long story short: in 2016 I ended up as a homeless full-time single dad suffering from combat PTSD. My sisters, who know how much I enjoy writing, bought me daddystinks.co.uk for my birthday as an outlet. My spare time since has been spent creating my own project, in my own little area of the internet.
3. What do you want to achieve from your blog?
Primarily I wanted to share my stories and experiences with the world, so that other people in the same situation can relate to and draw strength from them. However, the more I write, the more I enjoy writing.
4. How is it being a dad taking custody of your two children?
The custody battle was hard and in truth, I often felt like giving up on it. Again this is on the blog if you're interested. That said, it is, without doubt, the biggest achievement and the best thing I ever did with my life. The greatest motivation to become a better man is knowing someone looks up to you and I love knowing that my direct involvement with my kids is what will mould them into the adults they will become. So, no matter how difficult it gets, the rewards are more than worth it.
5. How old are your children?
Lexie is 9 and my son, Kieran is 8
6. What is day-to-day life like?
Day to day life in our flat is full of lots of love, laughter and farting and that's just my daughter haha! Honestly, we have so much fun. I live my life in the belief that sometimes the poorest man leaves his children the richest inheritance. Also, always give back more than what is expected. I try to raise the children to value all experiences and so we are always up to something, whether it's building dens in the woods or making up and writing stories under a blanket in the living room. I really do buy into dedicating these early years to them to ensure they get the freedom in their lives to do the things they want to do. Again this is in my letter to the kids found on my blog.
7. What sort of posts do you tend to post on your blog?
Right now my posts are about the immediate past and the issues that I have had taking custody,m although this is not the direction I will be sending my blog down. I want it to be a place where people can see that they can become a butterfly no matter what cards they were dealt. We have been through the worst of times; we have nothing, but I have never been happier. I have stopped taking tablets for the PTSD and I am really enjoying life thanks to my children. My posts will be about how to manage your life when the journey goes off route and also how to have fun when you really don't feel like it.
You can read more posts on his blog here: http://daddystinks.co.uk/